Eena: so i m sure you're busy fixing your new apoartmentquestions for reflection: are men really like that? if married, what house habits of the spouse did (or do) you find most difficult to break? and will my proposed multipurpose bowl simply go the way of our ill-fated laundry hamper?
Deepa: yeah! unpacking boxes, kind of putting everything in order and dealing with marlon's bachelor habits haha
Deepa: we just spray-painted our bed yesterday
Eena: hahha messy?
Deepa: with clothes, super
Deepa: he tends to leave clothes all over the apartment
Eena: men are like that
Eena: parang snake! i know!
Deepa: exactly!!!
Eena: oh my god! welcome na talaga to da club!
Deepa: i bought him a hamper last year and he doesn't use it
Eena: and you need to remind him...PUT IT IN THE HAMPER. promise it will go on till you guys are 70
Deepa: i was so ticked off today when i found... socks on the dining room chairs, jocks on the floor of our walkin closet, a t-shirt on the daybed in the living room, another t-shirt in the bathroom and... shorts on the floor of our bedroom. TWO FEET from the hamper!!!!
Deepa: ang lapit lapit na lang diba????
Eena: oo hahahah!
Eena: matututo din yan
Deepa: training training! in fairness, na-train ko na siya to buy matching things for our kitchen. we have a red frying pan kasi so he bought red and black cooking utensils
Deepa: kasi he knows i like to match stuff
Eena: oh my god hahahaha!
Deepa: diba? moderate success
Eena: pwede pwede. he's learning..your new pet..haha
Deepa: and then he has this habit of emptying his pockets when he comes home... and leaving the contents anywhere: coins, keys, receipts etc
Deepa: so i figured i just need like a bowl in the living room where he can dump everything
Eena: SAME!!! OMG
Eena: yeah ang mahiwagang bowl is the ANSWER. but like the hamper, you have to remind him ALL the time
discuss.
Mom bought me the "bowl" but I take 2 days to shoot everything in. Gawd am I the man here???
ReplyDeletehahaha sorry Deeps, I'd always check out your blog every now and then, but this time I can't help but comment on this! And no, not all men leave their clothes around the house. =)
ReplyDelete1. On the hamper - I remember asking him if we wanted me to get him a hamper when i got mine during an Ikea visit and he said, "no thanks, ok na ko...". What worked: strategically locating the drying rack (remember this?) right in front of the door, before the sofa, so it acts as a 'natural beacon' to deposit clothes upon arrival. Perhaps multiple mini-hampers in key locations will help. Tip: Leave one right by the front door for gym shirts / socks / boxing gloves, etc.
2. On the table tray - a tray in itself is not enough. it has to be big enough to deposit / accumulate stuff and to be easily noticed. Solution I used: a used gift basket that's wide enough to fit a soccer ball (he might still have this) positioned in the middle of the table.
So yes, he's trainable. Constant reinforcement and behavioral cues are the key drivers. Else, ask Auyong to give him a call for a quick brotherly lecture. Right, Marlon?
Will
I'm not sure if they (men) are all like that but my partner certainly is the same way. Just this morning I found a pair of jeans on a chair by the dining table.
ReplyDeleteSometimes he leaves his jacket on the couch and I just leave it there because I assume he's taking it to work. Of course he brings a different jacket to work and when he gets home leaves the new jacket on the couch. So now there are two jackets on the couch so I have to put both jackets in the hamper.
When he gets home from work he uses the kitchen door to enter the home and leaves EVERYTHING (keys, phone, wallet, etc.) on the console table in the dining room right beside the oven toaster.
We have a shoe rack just behind the kitchen door and instead of putting his shoes ON the rack he leaves his shoes right next to it. So sometimes when he changes shoes, there will be two shoes plus his home slippers right there beside the almost empty shoe rack.
He leaves his towel on the bed even if we have a towel rack in the bathroom.
I don't even attempt to "train" him anymore.
hi deepa! belated congrats on your wedding! i haven't seen the photos or video yet but im sure you look absolutely gorgeous. :)
ReplyDeleteas to your question, my boyfriend (hehehe semi-live-in), likes to just put his used damp towel anywhere. Hindi man lang i-sampay properly sa towel hanger or sa chair to dry. then yun clothes, he puts dirty clothes in the hamper naman. the only problem is he would average about 5-6 shirts a day. winter pa yan ha! just imagine how many shirts he use during summer.
btw, i changed my blog to senoritaria.blogspot.com.
take care deepa!
nette